You know that saying “when life gives you lemons, make lemonade?” Awwww, so much warm fuzzy. It’s lovely, and a gorgeous sentiment. But you know what? You don’t have to make lemonade. I think sometimes we stress ourselves out by making the lemonade. We struggle with these lemons, grapple with them. Sometimes they have bugger all juice in them, or they’re too tart. We become consumed by the lemons. We start to wonder if we could do something else with them? Could we turn them into a lemon butter? Do we have enough ingredients for any other lemon products? Sometimes our knife is a bit blunt, sometimes we need someone else to come in and help make the lemonade. Making lemonade can get tough sometimes you know? And what if this insistent pressure to make lemonade is all bullshit? Why do we *have* to make something out of these damn lemons?
And so sometimes, when life gives you lemons? You can just let them roll by. Or roll them back. You don’t have to do anything with them. When stuff gets rolled our way, we have this need to ‘fix’ it, or to make it better, or to make it go away. And inadvertently, the more we grapple with the stuff, get up in its grills, get consumed by making it into lemonade, the harder it gets. We can let stuff roll by- acknowledge it, see it, and let it go by. Not all lemons need to be turned into lemonade. But you also can’t go smashing lemons and throwing them back at other people. Some lemons have to be dealt with, but we don’t have to work ourselves to the bone for all lemons.
Lemons are a necessary part of life. Sometimes we don’t quite get why, we get shitty with them, sometimes they’re not what we had planned for. But they roll on in and become a part of our life. But they don’t always have to stay in there!
I’m realising here that I may potentially be sounding like some crazed crackpot with a fetish for lemons. This may be partially true. Have you seen the things you can do with lemons? A lemon water in the morning, anyone? Noice. But essentially I think sometimes we waste a bunch of time struggling with stuff we don’t need to struggle with. Or trying so very hard to turn something sour into something sweet. And while it’s good to work towards flipping stuff around, sometimes the more we struggle with something, having it up in our grills, the harder it gets to see things clearly. Hell, getting lemon in your eyes stings, yo! And sometimes there is just some stuff that will stay sour. It just is what it is. So, for that truly sour crap, let it roll by. See it, recognise it sucks, and then let it go. Or take what you can from it, and then leave the lemonade for another time.
This whole idea of seeing bad stuff, acknowledging it and letting it roll by? Forms part of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), only they explain it sans lemons. I like lemons though. I’ll explain ACT in another post, maybe with a printable soon. When my mojo comes back. I think it got squeezed with a lemon.
How are you with lemons? Do you struggle to squeeze every last bit out of them? Or are you able to just let them roll by? I’ve been a squeezer, I’ll admit. But rolling seems like a cool thang to do…..